Define REAL..

What is real? is it the life we live? or the better live we thrive for? is it what we see on TV or NOT what we see on TV? is it what hurts, ir what makes you smile?
what is real?
I've been having this question playing in my head for quite some time now.. not sure why..
Maybe because I've been feeling like I'm living out of the script of my life, that all that's around isn't real, and that I should hang on until REAL unfolds..
Maybe because i've read that all of what happens, happens only in our heads. happenings are neutral, they just happen, but it's the reading, the interpretation we project on them that give them meaning, either one we like, or one we dislike..
Maybe because even in medecine, we've learnt that what the eyes see isn't what the object is about, and that your sensed can trick, lure you, deceive you, manipulate you..


what is real then? what is REAL?
I'm currently still in the long confusing process of figuring that out, but I do know it doesn't have anything to do with senses, that it starts with the heart/mind, it doesn't matter who is leading who as long as they're dancing together harmoniously..




That's a place to start...

what defines me..

i'm not sure if that's a question or the beginning of an answer.. but i do know it's a place to start, and it's leading me somewhere..

i've recntly read a quote, someone said that we are defined by what we resist. i found that laughably wrong at first, but after giving it a thought, it didn't seem that wrong..
we are defined by the things we don't want in our lives, if we allow them to control our thinking.. the minute we start thinking 'i don't want this' and 'i don't want that', 'this' and 'that' start manifesting themselves in your lives.. simply because that's all you're focusing on.
and it makes sense, actually. i know this very well as i went through it. instead of focusing on what i wanted, i was focusing on what i didn't want. result? more of what i didn't want in my life, which made me think more about what i don't want, and gave me more of it.. a never ending vicious cycle.
the good news is that it's breakable. the minute you decide to start focusing on what you want, it starts manifesting, reveiling itself. and even better, when what you want is what you have, you have solved the equation of eternal happiness.

so.. that's the recipe you and i should be following:
1/be thankful
2/think of what you want
3/embrace what live gives you and don't resist..

so when you focus on life, on possibilities, on all that can be, only then you'll be undefined, unlimited, as big as life..

live happily everyone =)